Enactments seem to occur suddenly, when we are caught unawares and plunged into them. But from outside the intersubjective entanglement it is apparent that they build up slowly, increasingly, over time. Before we become implicated in an obvious, explicit rupture, there have been implicit, unspoken, subliminal versions of the enactment which have passed unnoticed. Importantly, as we recognise with hindsight, our supposedly therapeutic responses have fed into and contributed to this build-up all along. Based on a multi-layered model of enactments, Michael will explore how the therapist's embodied presence, perception and self-awareness can make the difference between transformative repair of a rupture, or a destructive breakdown of the relationship.